I am being pressured to get Blossom spayed. If you recall she spent a month in the shelter trembling 24/7 and shut down. I have had her about 2 months and I have worked hard with her on her separation anxiety and riding in the car. I can finally leave the house for a bit and she is still nervous but she is learning to trust I will be back. I have not had great luck with getting her to ride in the car. She has not seen a vet yet. I am working every day on this. She also does not react well to all people, barking and scaring them. She needs some socialization But my point is that building trust with her on the 2 main issues of separation anxiety and travel are not arbitrary. The REASON she doesn't want to ride in the car is that she fears going back to the shelter. Won't being at the vet feel like "Oh gee, I was right, riding in the car took me to the shelter again". Trust takes time to build What is wrong with those morons? I worked hard with her and to have her go backwards because I took her to and left her (in her mind what is the shelter again) would break my heart too. I have put off my own trips to doctors out of state because she won't go and it is not an option to not take her with me. I cannot have her regress because the work is hard and would she ever trust again? I cannot be a prisoner in my home because she wasn't given enough time. Then I come to find out my vet doesn't do the surgery leaving her hormones in tact and I would have to travel even further. I am not sure the shelter would even be happy with leaving her hormones in tact. I was traumatized in June leaving JJ at the hospital where he died in 1 hour and for me to leave Blossom with her thinking I sent her to the shelter leaves her with the same emotional pain JJ had which I cannot bear again. Blossom trusts me and it is too soon to have her spayed and left at a clinic she has never been to before. This is why I never wanted any more dogs---I cannot bear the decisions, pressure and pain inflicted on my dog that I live with . I adopted a dog in 2015 and it took me MONTHS to get him out the back door and MONTHS to get him together with my resident dogs.